is NOT losing your freakin' mind on your child when she goes #2 on the floor on purpose for the second day in a row.
This is all I can manage right now.
Friday, May 23, 2008
Sunday, May 18, 2008
Parenting help
Yesterday, K and J and I were playing on the floor and K said, "I'm going to give you a big kiss, Mommy!" And she did. Then she went over to J and gave him a big kiss. Then she talked about giving practically everyone we've ever met a big kiss. So I took the opportunity to tell her that it is always okay to give Mommy, Daddy and J a big kiss, but for everyone else, she has to ask them first. THEN, if they say she can, she can give them a SMALL LITTLE kiss ON THE CHEEK OR HAND. She seemed confused by the whole thing. With good reason I suppose.
While shopping at our local discount center today, several people stopped to chat with K, who has graduated to being able to "keep her hand on the cart" instead of riding inside. (Except when she isn't a good listener, then, it's back into cart-prison.) While we were in the travel size stuff aisle, a sweet older lady stopped to coo at J and said hello to K. Kbegan babbling on about the stickers she was holding to this lady, who had no idea what she was talking about.
Later, K took a few minutes to play in the little life-size dollhouse they had in the middle of the toy section while I waited impatiently. An older man saw her in there and peeked at her through the window to make her laugh. She was so enthralled in her discovery, she didn't even see him. Then, I stopped a WW (Walmart worker) to ask where I could find some felt as it wasn't where I thought it would be. While explaining to me where to find it (just one aisle over of course) K practically hugged her legs and started saying something to her about her "new big girl bed".
(Yeah, I am gonna keep going...) THEN while checking out, the same man who tried to say hello to her at the playhouse, walked by and stopped again and asked her if she had fun in the playhouse. She said "yes" and then he kept talking to us. He left after about 30 seconds to have a seat at the waiting area (???) As he walked away I said to the cashier, "So how are you suppose to balance teaching your kids not to trust strangers, but to still be polite?" She just shook her head knowingly and said, "If you figure it out, come back and let me know."
So what the heck? How do you teach a soon-to-be three year old these kinds of boundaries. I don't want to make her scared of people (she is still traumatized by the "spider incident of 2008" which I will write about later), but also am not comfortable with her just talking to anyone and everyone. Also, how do you balance all that when people approach your children every time we go anywhere????
I know several of you must be dealing with the same thing...so clue me in here!!!!
While shopping at our local discount center today, several people stopped to chat with K, who has graduated to being able to "keep her hand on the cart" instead of riding inside. (Except when she isn't a good listener, then, it's back into cart-prison.) While we were in the travel size stuff aisle, a sweet older lady stopped to coo at J and said hello to K. Kbegan babbling on about the stickers she was holding to this lady, who had no idea what she was talking about.
Later, K took a few minutes to play in the little life-size dollhouse they had in the middle of the toy section while I waited impatiently. An older man saw her in there and peeked at her through the window to make her laugh. She was so enthralled in her discovery, she didn't even see him. Then, I stopped a WW (Walmart worker) to ask where I could find some felt as it wasn't where I thought it would be. While explaining to me where to find it (just one aisle over of course) K practically hugged her legs and started saying something to her about her "new big girl bed".
(Yeah, I am gonna keep going...) THEN while checking out, the same man who tried to say hello to her at the playhouse, walked by and stopped again and asked her if she had fun in the playhouse. She said "yes" and then he kept talking to us. He left after about 30 seconds to have a seat at the waiting area (???) As he walked away I said to the cashier, "So how are you suppose to balance teaching your kids not to trust strangers, but to still be polite?" She just shook her head knowingly and said, "If you figure it out, come back and let me know."
So what the heck? How do you teach a soon-to-be three year old these kinds of boundaries. I don't want to make her scared of people (she is still traumatized by the "spider incident of 2008" which I will write about later), but also am not comfortable with her just talking to anyone and everyone. Also, how do you balance all that when people approach your children every time we go anywhere????
I know several of you must be dealing with the same thing...so clue me in here!!!!
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